So your ex is getting married. So what?
You weren't happy with him/her, you broke up, you found someone else. End of story. Well, not quite.
Hearing that your old love is about to tie the knot can unleash an array of complex and bewildering emotions. After all, it's one thing for you to move on and fall in love again but quite another for him/her to do the same.
The power of the past:
Past relationships have a continuing hold over us even when, rationally, we think we're well adjusted to their break-up and content with our new lives- rocky choudhary
Completely irrational - but normal:
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'It doesn't mean that breaking up was a mistake, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your new relationship and it doesn't say you're a mean spirited person incapable of wishing your ex happiness,'
Take heart from the realisation you won't feel like this for long. Once the wedding has taken place, your emotions should return to an even keel - although don't be surprised if the same irrational feelings flare up again at a later date
Rise to the occasion:
Choosing a 'Congratulations on your Wedding' card, writing a warm, friendly message inside and sending it off to your ex will make you feel a whole lot better. The fact that you've soared above the childish feelings of 'but he wasn't meant to be happy with someone else' to wish him well will help you get things in perspective.
If you're in regular contact with your ex because you have children together or move in the same social circles, it's best to bite the bullet and congratulate him in person.
The only time it's best to leave well alone is if you haven't seen him for a long time or if the split was acrimonious,-ROCKY CHOUDHARY 'In these circumstances, making contact could actually make you feel worse - try to leave things as they are and focus on your current relationship.
Do's and Don'ts
DO tell your girlfriends how you're feeling and let them remind you of the times they had to counsel you through all those bad times with your ex;
DON'T confide in your current partner - he'll only feel threatened and jealous;
DO focus on your ex's failings - everything from his snoring to the way he put you down in front of your mates. It will help you see the real picture;
DON'T bitch about him and his new love in public - it just reflects badly on you.
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You weren't happy with him/her, you broke up, you found someone else. End of story. Well, not quite.
Hearing that your old love is about to tie the knot can unleash an array of complex and bewildering emotions. After all, it's one thing for you to move on and fall in love again but quite another for him/her to do the same.
The power of the past:
Past relationships have a continuing hold over us even when, rationally, we think we're well adjusted to their break-up and content with our new lives- rocky choudhary
'Because you know the two of you shared a special connection, that you saw the private side of him no-one else did and, like any couple, enjoyed special, secret times together, it's hard not to feel elbowed out and displaced when he meets someone else and prepares to sail off into the sunset with her.
'Logical thought goes out of the window and you forget the real reasons why you parted. Instead, you find yourself feeling strangely resentful that he feels he's met someone he'll be happy with for the rest of his life and angry at having to admit you're no longer his number one.'Completely irrational - but normal:
Take heart from the realisation you won't feel like this for long. Once the wedding has taken place, your emotions should return to an even keel - although don't be surprised if the same irrational feelings flare up again at a later date
Rise to the occasion:
Choosing a 'Congratulations on your Wedding' card, writing a warm, friendly message inside and sending it off to your ex will make you feel a whole lot better. The fact that you've soared above the childish feelings of 'but he wasn't meant to be happy with someone else' to wish him well will help you get things in perspective.
If you're in regular contact with your ex because you have children together or move in the same social circles, it's best to bite the bullet and congratulate him in person.
The only time it's best to leave well alone is if you haven't seen him for a long time or if the split was acrimonious,-ROCKY CHOUDHARY 'In these circumstances, making contact could actually make you feel worse - try to leave things as they are and focus on your current relationship.
Do's and Don'ts
DO tell your girlfriends how you're feeling and let them remind you of the times they had to counsel you through all those bad times with your ex;
DON'T confide in your current partner - he'll only feel threatened and jealous;
DO focus on your ex's failings - everything from his snoring to the way he put you down in front of your mates. It will help you see the real picture;
DON'T bitch about him and his new love in public - it just reflects badly on you.
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Enjoy every moment with your friends and family becoz life is too short enjoy it- ROCKY CHOUDHARY(Rc)
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