How to Be Satisfied With What You Have

Our inability to be satisfied with what we have stems from living in marketing societies that insist we need to keep purchasing more in order to be fulfilled. Time-strapped and cash-poor, we continue to strive for what we believe,some people have 

more money, bigger houses, faster cars, and lovelier spouses. All this wanting is leaving us unhappy and dissatisfied, however. Instead of wanting what we haven't got, it can be a pure revelation to turn around and want what we already have. Here is a start on your path to satisfaction here and now.

Be happy: Whenever you feel you are down in something, think of something that makes you feel calm. It can be an ocean wave, open sky or a guy/girl you like.

Stop being frustrated: Replace anger and inability to control things and other people with rational thinking.

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Be calm: Relax, & or meditate. Remember- what we now have was once among the things we wished for.

Stop comparing yourself to others: When you compare yourself to someone else, you'll always find someone who has it better than you. ALWAYS. So- why do it? Sometimes it's better to enjoy the moonlight than to reach for the moon.

Enjoy happiness now: Since there's always someone who has it better, there's always someone who has it worse. So just enjoy life, let things go, & do whatever makes you happy.

Overcome addictions: Addictions are a sign that you're not focusing on the world around you but are trying to seek escapism. Don't ignore reality, find the good things & make your reality as good as your dreams. It can happen.

Live simply: So that others may simply live goes the adage... but the truth is, too much stuff is clutter and weighs us down. Realistically, how much of that stuff in your house do you really need and use regularly?

Be grateful: Be thankful. Being grateful is healthy for you. Whatever you have already got - be it health, loved ones, career, interests, hobbies, a car, clothes, a home, great views, talents, etc., make the most of it and be grateful for it. We take it all for granted, and many people would kill for what we have.

Get out in the fresh air, appreciate nature, spend time with loved ones all free but deeply satisfying.

Be confident: Much unhappiness stems from the fact that we focus on the negatives of our life more than the positives. Having a confident attitude will help you to focus on your strengths, possibly walking away from a situation dwelling contentedly on what went right instead of what went wrong/could have gone better.

Tips:

• Spread act of kindness ,no matter how insignificant you may think it is.
• Keep in mind: You have no power to act yesterday or tomorrow. All you can do is try to focus on and improve the quality of the present, which will in improve the quality of your future.
• Look at others who don't have what you have and you will feel good and always be thankful for what you have.
• Don´t wait for it to happen on it´s own. The only person that is able to get satisfied with what he/she has is you. You can start things right now, so get up and just do it!
• Smile at people the reaction may surprise you, but it will usually please others. This is happiness!

How to deal with depression:

Depression drains your energy, hope, and drive, making it difficult to do what you need to feel better. But while overcoming depression isn't quick or easy, it’s far from impossible. You can’t beat it through sheer willpower, but you do have some control—even if your depression is severe and stubbornly persistent. The key is to start small and build from there. Feeling better takes time, but you can get there if you make positive choices for yourself each day.
Recovering from depression requires action, but taking action when you’re depressed is hard. In fact, just thinking about the things you should do to feel better, like going for a walk or spending time with friends, can be exhausting.

 The things that help the most are the things that are the most difficult to do. There’s a difference, however, between something that's difficult and something that's impossible.
Start small and stay focused
The key to depression recovery is to start with a few small goals and slowly build from there. Draw upon whatever resources you have. You may not have much energy, but you probably have enough to take a short walk around the block or pick up the phone to call a loved one.

Take things one day at a time and reward yourself for each accomplishment. The steps may seem small, but they’ll quickly add up. And for all the energy you put into your depression recovery, you’ll get back much more in return.
Cultivate supportive relationships

Getting the support you need plays a big role in lifting the fog of depression and keeping it away. On your own, it can be difficult to maintain perspective and sustain the effort required to beat depression, but the very nature of depression makes it difficult to reach out for help. However, isolation and loneliness make depression even worse, so maintaining your close relationships and social activities are important.

The thought of reaching out to even close family members and friends can seem overwhelming. You may feel ashamed, too exhausted to talk, or guilty for neglecting the relationship. Remind yourself that this is the depression talking. Reaching out is not a sign of weakness and it won’t mean you’re a burden to others. Your loved ones care about you and want to help. And remember, it’s never too late to build new friendships and improve your support network.

Turn to trusted friends and family members. Share what you’re going through with the people you love and trust, face to face if possible. The people you talk to don’t have to be able to fix you; they just need to be good listeners. Ask for the help and support you need. You may have retreated from your most treasured relationships, but they can get you through this tough time.
Try to keep up with social activities even if you don’t feel like it. Often when you’re depressed, it feels more comfortable to retreat into your shell, but being around other people will make you feel less depressed.
Join a support group for depression. Being with others dealing with depression can go a long way in reducing your sense of isolation. You can also encourage each other, give and receive advice on how to cope, and share your experiences.
10 tips for reaching out and building relationships
Talk to one person about your feelings.
Help someone else by volunteering.
Have lunch or coffee with a friend.
Ask a loved one to check in with you regularly.
Accompany someone to the movies, a concert, or a small get-together.
Call or email an old friend.
Go for a walk with a workout buddy.
Schedule a weekly dinner date.
Meet new people by taking a class or joining a club.
Confide in a counselor, therapist, or clergy member.
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Depression self-help tip 2: Challenge negative thinking
Depression puts a negative spin on everything, including the way you see yourself, the situations you encounter, and your expectations for the future.

But you can’t break out of this pessimistic mind frame by “just thinking positive.” Happy thoughts or wishful thinking won’t cut it. Rather, the trick is to replace negative thoughts with more balanced thoughts.

Ways to challenge negative thinking:
Think outside yourself. Ask yourself if you’d say what you’re thinking about yourself to someone else. If not, stop being so hard on yourself. Think about less harsh statements that offer more realistic descriptions.
Allow yourself to be less than perfect. Many depressed people are perfectionists, holding themselves to impossibly high standards and then beating themselves up when they fail to meet them. Battle this source of self-imposed stress by challenging your negative ways of thinking
Socialize with positive people. Notice how people who always look on the bright side deal with challenges, even minor ones, like not being able to find a parking space. Then consider how you would react in the same situation. Even if you have to pretend, try to adopt their optimism and persistence in the face of difficulty.
Keep a “negative thought log." Whenever you experience a negative thought, jot down the thought and what triggered it in a notebook. Review your log when you’re in a good mood. Consider if the negativity was truly warranted. Ask yourself if there’s another way to view the situation. For example, let’s say your boyfriend was short with you and you automatically assumed that the relationship was in trouble. It's possible, though, he’s just having a bad day.
Types of negative thinking that add to depression

All-or-nothing thinking – Looking at things in black-or-white categories, with no middle ground (“If I fall short of perfection, I’m a total failure.”)
Overgeneralization – Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to hold true forever (“I can’t do anything right.”)
The mental filter – Ignoring positive events and focusing on the negative. Noticing the one thing that went wrong, rather than all the things that went right.
Diminishing the positive – Coming up with reasons why positive events don’t count (“She said she had a good time on our date, but I think she was just being nice.”)
Jumping to conclusions – Making negative interpretations without actual evidence. You act like a mind reader (“He must think I’m pathetic”) or a fortune teller (“I’ll be stuck in this dead end job forever”)
Emotional reasoning – Believing that the way you feel reflects reality (“I feel like such a loser. I really am no good!”)
‘Shoulds’ and ‘should-nots’ – Holding yourself to a strict list of what you should and shouldn’t do, and beating yourself up if you don’t live up to your rules.
Labeling – Labeling yourself based on mistakes and perceived shortcomings (“I’m a failure; an idiot; a loser.”)
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Depression self-help tip 3: Take care of yourself
In order to overcome depression, you have to take care of yourself. This includes following a healthy lifestyle, learning to manage stress, setting limits on what you’re able to do, adopting healthy habits, and scheduling fun activities into your day.

Aim for eight hours of sleep. Depression typically involves sleep problems. Whether you’re sleeping too little or too much, your mood suffers. Get on a better sleep schedule by learning healthy sleep habits.
Expose yourself to a little sunlight every day. Lack of sunlight can make depression worse. Make sure you’re getting enough. Take a short walk outdoors, have your coffee outside, enjoy an al fresco meal, people-watch on a park bench, or sit out in the garden. Aim for at least 15 minutes of sunlight a day to boost your mood. If you live somewhere with little winter sunshine, try using a light therapy box.
Keep stress in check. Not only does stress prolong and worsen depression, but it can also trigger it.  Figure out all the things in your life that stress you out. Examples include: work overload, unsupportive relationships, taking on too much, or health problems. Once you’ve identified your stressors, you can make a plan to avoid them or minimize their impact.
Practice relaxation techniques. A daily relaxation practice can help relieve symptoms of depression, reduce stress, and boost feelings of joy and well-being. Try yoga, deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or meditation.
Care for a pet. While nothing can replace the human connection, pets can bring joy and companionship into your life and help you feel less isolated. Caring for a pet can also get you outside of yourself and give you a sense of being needed—both powerful antidotes to depression.
Do things you enjoy (or used to)
While you can’t force yourself to have fun or experience pleasure, you can choose to do things that you used to enjoy. Pick up a former hobby or a sport you used to like. Express yourself creatively through music, art, or writing. Go out with friends. Take a day trip to a museum, the mountains, or the ballpark.

Push yourself to do things, even when you don’t feel like it. You might be surprised at how much better you feel once you’re out in the world. Even if your depression doesn’t lift immediately, you’ll gradually feel more upbeat and energetic as you make time for fun activities.

Develop a wellness toolbox
Come up with a list of things that you can do for a quick mood boost. Include any strategies, activities, or skills that have helped in the past. The more “tools” for coping with depression, the better. Try and implement a few of these ideas each day, even if you’re feeling good.
Spend some time in nature
List what you like about yourself
Read a good book
Watch a funny movie or TV show
Take a long, hot bath
Take care of a few small tasks
Play with a pet
Talk to friends or family face-to-face
Listen to music
Do something spontaneous
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Fruitful ways to dieting & good health

Now a day’s many people’s are facing the problem of obesity. In this running world people don’t have time

for exercising or maintain their physic by hitting gym. So I came through this problem of obesity in many individuals around the world and they have watched many online videos, blogs, sites etc to reduce their extra pounds. There are many medicines are available in the market which may reduce extra ponds but cause side effect on their body. Seeing the problem of peoples in this world, am trying to help them by this post and i sure that they will feel healthy and reduce extra pounds in their body by a natural diet chart.

Here is an easy way to lose weight as well as to give a break to your system for a week. If you follow the program for a week, you will definitely find you will be lighter by 10-17 pounds. But during the entire week. You are to eat only what is listed in the program and not to touch alcohol or any other beverage. You must drink at least 10 glasses of water. This is how the

program works:

Day 1: You have to eat all fruits, except bananas, consume lots of melons if possible because melons make you lose weight immediately. You are now preparing your system for the upcoming program. Fruits are nature’s perfect food. They provide everything that is required to sustain life.

Day 2: Eat all vegetables, whether raw or cooked, of your choice. To start with, you can have a large baked potato for breakfast and continue the diet with other vegetables on this day. Apart of butter on the potato can be allowed if you feel like having it. This day starts with carbohydrates supplemented by vegetables which are calorie-free, yet provide essential nutrients and fiber.

Day 3: You can have a mixture of fruits and vegetables of your choice. No bananas yet and strictly no potatoes today. Your system is now prepared to start burning the excess pounds. Potato is not required on day 3, as you get your carbohydrates from fruits.

Day 4: Today you will have only bananas and milk, you may have to eat as many as 8 bananas and drink 3 glasses of milk. This is a strange combination but it is essential for making up for the loss of potassium and sodium during the past 3 days. On this day, you will definitely notice a loss of desire for sweets.

Day 5: Today you can feast on protein foods like toor daal, moong daal, beetroot and soup. Eat this with 6 tomatoes and increase your water intake by one quarter at least. While the dal give proteins, tomatoes helps digestion and add fiber, lots of water purifies your system.

Day 6: Continue the proteins along with vegetables. Now your system is totally inclined towards weight loss. There should be a noticeable difference in the way you look today compared to day 1.

Day 7: You can have brown rice, fruit juices and all the vegetables you care to consume. Thank god the program is finishing today. You now have your system under control and it should thank you for the flushing and cleansing you just gave it.

Think for a while. It is not all that bad as you may feel. You can have following beverages during the program.

Water (plenty of it); black coffee (without cream, cream substitute or sugar or sweetener); black tea (with leaves only);

Absolutely no beverages on day 7 except fruit juices and also fruit juices before day 7.

For those of you, who are still wondering what this is all about, please check with m/s general motors, USA, who has prescribed the above dieting program for all their employees.

This is a painless diet plan that can be followed by anybody with a little bit of self control. Vegetables and fruits suggested are to be consumed in moderate quantities. Those with medical problems, do consult your physician before you try this diet—ROCKY CHOUDHARY

How to Live the Best Life You Can

you know what I find amazing? That people are willing to go to war, and even give up their lives for a cause, but they can't give up the causes of their suffering. Why is that? Why do we hold on to beliefs that don't serve us? Our habit patterns are so hard to break. And even when we try, obstacles seem to appear; our desires and our attachments push us to keep repeating the same destructive patterns over and over again. Why? Why do we follow the same negative course, rarely finding happiness or satisfaction in the pleasures all around us?

Here's why: because we haven't learned how to truly enjoy one single moment. We haven't learned how to live in the present. We spend most of the time worrying about the future, or dwelling on the past, and so our experiences are never totally fulfilled. Our time is spent between work and pleasure, and we work, it seems, for pleasure: preparing and planning for weekends and vacations and various entertainments to escape into. I'm not saying that's wrong. I'm just asking the question, "Do we find real pleasure in the constant pursuit of entertainment? Or are we missing something? Something deeper and more sustaining?"

Although this endeavor will be different for everyone, this article will contain all kinds of advice. Hopefully everyone can get something out of it.


#Start off by looking at yourself = Not in comparison to anyone else, but just look at yourself. Ask yourself these questions.

• Who am I?
• Where do I currently stand in my life?
• What role do I play in others lives? (Sister, mother, friend, role model, teacher, partner, etc..)
• Am I living to my fullest potential?
• Am I happy? Fulfilled? At peace?
• Why, or why not?

# One huge mistake people make in their lives is sheltering themselves from pain. Hiding from the truth. Denying reality. DEATH exists. Become at peace with that. MURDERS and RAPE and DISEASES happen. Accept it. Once you face the facts that life isn't all rainbows and butterflies, you will be more prepared to handle tough situations, and you won't take disappointment as such a shock.

# Determine which people in your life are actually worth your care. Eliminate all the fake friends and

the users from your list, and list only those who make you feel happy when you're around them. Now make an effort to spend more time around those people, and less time around the people who do no good for you or your life. It's okay to be a little selfish in this sense every once in a while. Just be sure you give back an equal amount to what you take (and that doesn't only mean physical things, but emotional needs, as well).

# Look on the dark side. Yes, this isn't a typo, the DARK side. Because often times, when dealing with personal relationships, looking on the bright side just leads to disappointment when we are let down from what we expect or wish to happen. As the cliche' goes, hope for the best, expect the worst. Did you know the formula for happiness is reality divided by expectations? What it means is don't think you are going to get what you want.

#Find something you love to do, and do it. Do it often. Simple as that.

# Often, change is a good thing. Welcome something new into your life, whether it be a new friend, a new interest (separate from the one from the step above), or a new favorite show you watch religiously. Change up your routine a little.

#Think back to something you loved in your childhood. Was it your passion for doing hair? Your love of Barney? Maybe playing make-believe with your friends? Revisit one of those things, and you will most likely recreate the joy it used to bring. Play Barbies with a young child, or do a little girls hair. Let a child bring you into their carefree world for a few hours. It could be your little cousin, your own children, or you could babysit.

#Always try to see every situation from each person's perspective. Don't just see things your way, actually take the time to try to see things through the eyes of another. You'll gain insight, which can be enlightening.

#Blast some music and just dance your heart out. Lose it in the music. Either alone or with friends. Just dance for hours. You'll get a good workout and release endorphin's, which make you happy.

#Try something you've never tried before. Take up a class, or use directions and try to figure it out for yourself. Cooking, painting, whatever. And if you screw up, laugh it off. It was all in the name of the experience.

#Smile. As often as possible. When you don't even feel like it. Just do it. All the time. It will eventually rub off.

#Stop hiding from your misery. Realize the cause of your negative feelings and attempt to fix the problem. If you simply cannot fix it, screw it. Anything that is out of your control is a waste of your time. No longer let it faze you.

#In the end it comes down to you. Only YOU have the power to allow yourself to be happy.

 Imagine living the perfect life every single day from now on. No stress. No fear. No anger. No matter what circumstances you encounter. Experience the magic of being alive and living a life filled with joy and possibilities.
   Discover the secret to living a perfect life. A simple but profound truth that once internalized will allow you to transform the way you think about your experience in the world.

how to be happy after breakup

This is an experience of mine and i had already given suggestions to my buddies who were broken up dere relationship.... When everything is wrong and you just want to cry all night, that's when you know you need to get over that ex. Everyone experiences heartbreaks, but being strong about it is another thing. Don't let your ex see you weak.

Never ever run back to them or call them all the time. You can just never let go of that special guy/girl that taught you how to love. When you guys break up, then it happens for a reason. Don't keep calling him/her and talking to them like nothing happened or try to make them love you again. It's not going to work out. It'll just make you seem weak and clingy.

Forgive and forget. Let things go and remain cool. Don't let your ex see you miserable without them, it'll just give them the satisfaction and an ego boost.

It's okay to cry at night. For the first few weeks, it's going to be a long and lonely journey. So it's OK to cry. Cry your heart out for the matter of fact. You are going to stop crying in the end because you'll get sick of it and realize that it's a temporary phase. Listen to sad love songs. It'll make you feel better and you'll realize that you can relate to them even more after a breakup. Get it all out and then deal with it.

Remain positive. Just because he/she broke up with you or doesn't want you back doesn't mean that you're "worthless". There are plenty of other people who want you and would be willing to treat you even better than your ex. Smile and laugh. Surround yourself with friends and people who care. Not only will you feel better, your ex will notice how happy you are and maybe regret rejecting you.

Lift your head up high and move on. Don't let one relationship drag you down even though it was the best one you ever had. There will be plenty more and it's his/her loss. You are too good for them anyway. Tell yourself that. Tell yourself that you need someone who will treat you right. Just be strong and forget about your boyfriend.

Don't try to fling or have special relationships with your ex. It never ends up right when you just go back into that cycle. Yes, "that" cycle. Where you guys break up then make up then act all cute and happy but in the end, you'll just be heartbroken and cry. Yes ... that cycle. Relationships end for many reasons.

Consult a friend if you feel lame or played. When your ex plays around with your heart when he/she knows that you still want them, that's when you definitely know that he/she is not for you. It's OK to feel this way, completely normal. Don't hold your feelings in, talk to a friend and cry. Let them comfort you and let yourself vent your feelings. You'll definitely feel better.

Shop, exercise and socialize. It'll make you feel better to buy new outfits so you canlook even more attractive. Not only will it boost your confidence, it will also boost your self-esteem. Looking good will make you feel good. Exercise is also a good way to vent your frustration and pain. Socializing with others would keep you distracted from your ex, bolster your self-esteem, and help you get over your ex. When you are occupied with other people, you'll think, "Hey! Being single isn't bad. I get to make new friends and have more time to myself". Flirt and mingle!


Whenever you miss him/her try to engage yourself or take a nap it refreshes your mind.

Don't try to work things out with your ex you will just make them think that you still want them and that they have your heart.

It's OK to start liking other people after a couple a months, meaning you cant wait for your ex forever. Recover and then get out there again.

Give it time i know you are heart broken now but just wait and you will recover be happy and you'll see you forget about your ex.

·                     Do not regret any decisions, move on, it's for the better

·                     Hang out with your friends or just find comfort in your bed. It'll help you cope.

·                     If your ex tells you how they miss you and want to be with you, don't give in. It's all lies. They'll just end up hurting you.

·                     Act happy and smile (even if you are not), people will approach you and socialize with you. Nobody wants to talk to someone that looks miserable.

·                     Try to DELETE every memory of your ex in your head.

·                     Go ahead and cry! Crying is good for your health, so make sure you get it all out in one night, you'll be letting out all that pent-up stress, anger, and sadness. After you get it all out, tell yourself that you're done crying, and ready to move on with life, then DO IT!

·                     If you miss the friendship from before the romance, a year or more of separation helps. So does waiting until both you and your past love have found new relationships. At the point you feel happy for your ex that she or he is involved with someone new, that's a point that real friendship can be taken up again. You have to get over all your anger at the ex during the separation and no longer blame him/her for anything and no longer miss the relationship as such. If what you miss is the discussions of favorite books or activities, then that friendship may have been strong enough to survive the romance and its breakup.

·                     Indulge every personal taste and pleasure that you set aside for the relationship, anything that wasn't shared. Now is the best time to do all the little things Your Way. Have anchovies on your pizza if you like them. Sleep in on weekends if your ex was an early riser who always had plans. Wear favorite clothing your ex didn't like. Hang the art or posters your ex didn't like. Listen to the music your ex didn't like. All these are ways of regaining yourself, rebuilding your sense of self as a separate individual rather than half of the couple.

warning:

·                     After a Break Up: Remaining 'Just Friends'. BIG NO-NO! Accepting that your relationship is over is the very first step after a break up, and without this realization you'll be hard pressed to move on. Now is the time for renewal, not hopes for reconciliation. Sure, there may be a slight chance the two of you will get back together, but even the most astute 'get your ex back' manuals start with this first simple step: take a break. It should be a long break, a year or two. It's not emotionally safe to resume the friendship until you've stopped feeling romantic about your former partner completely - till you feel happy about it if they're dating someone else.

·                     Avoid keeping remnants of the relationship lying around. Keeping things lying around your house/bedroom that remind you of him/her is not going to help the problem. You need to get rid of them. Throw them away, or put them in a box and put that away in the attic, or under that loose floor board in your spare bedroom. Either way, get them OUT OF THE WAY and OUT OF SIGHT. OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND remember.

GOOD LIFE

“No one is born happy, one has to discover his own happiness…”-ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Are you truly living good life? Do you even know what it means to be happy and what it takes to achieve happiness? These are important questitions to ask themselves.

The truth of the matter is that happiness,like anything else in life,needs to be nurtured. The following are few tips that one should follow to live good life.

Statrt early and fit:

Wake up early: this gets the day off to great and positive start. The early hours are full of spiritual and fresh energy and thus the best time for meditation and exercise. Also waking up early ensures that our whole day goes organized and starts well on time.

Sweat every day: any form of exercise or movement that keeps your body in tip top shape and flexible is really necessary to keep moving ahead. It ensures your fitness and becomes key to your later quality of life!

“ Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.”  -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Get some entertainment:

Apart from work our body needs daily relaxation and enjoyment as well. We must add and humor in our daily lives. Spending quality time always keeps our mind, body and spirit lifted.

Taking our time for yourself and doing something nice, which you have always cherished keeps bad mood and negative vibes away. Treating yourself with nice lunch, or long drive,listening to music,shopping or may be simply spending few extra minutes while taking shower are some of those few ideas.

“ good life is not something you postpone for the future;it is something you design for the present.” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Health comes first:

Be aware of the pollutants you are exposed to. If you live in polluted community try to move to cleaner and healthy environment. Eliminate use of plastics and switch to glass, wood or other environment friendly options.

Quit smoking,alcohol and even too much eating. Also we must keep chech on our health on time to time basis. By taking stress or too much pressure we wont get extra.always remember nobody can take what you deserve .eating balanced food, doing plenty of exercise and sleep maintains your health and in another way achieve happiness.

Don’t age fast,age gracefully!

“if your heart can become pure and simple ,like that of a child, I think there probably can be no greater happiness than this.” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Spend time with nature:

One of the best ways to feel happy is to be with nature intimately. Spend time outside. Don’t spend your lunch hour stressed out and sitting at your desk at work. Reduce stress by taking a break . get outside. Fresh air will relieves stress, clear your head and re-energize you for the rest of your day.

Stop and smell the roses. Nature ,it’s a beautiful thing. The world has so much to offer and there are so many different ways to experience it. Find what’s right for you and get out there and discover the rewarding experience offered by our greatest asset.. mother nature.

“the best way to pay for a lovely moment is to enjoy it.” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Do what you desire:

Understand what it is that will make you happy. Everyone has unique requirements for attaining happiness and what makes one person happy may be very different from what makes someone else happy. Revel in your individuality and do not worry about whether or not your desires are comparable to those of your peers.

Each day do something good for yourself. It can be something small, such buying a book, eating something you love, watching your favorite program on tv, going to a movie, or just having a stroll on beach. If necessary, tell yourself each day that you deserve to be happy and remind yourself what steps you will take to achieve the happiness you desire.

“ what’s the use of worrying? It never was worth while, so pack up your troubles in your old kit bag, and smile,smile.” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Stop worrying and start living:

When something goes wrong try to figure out a solution instead of wallowing in self pity. Truly happy people don’t allow set backs to affect their mood becoz they know that with a little thought they can turn the circumstances back to their favour. Endeavour to change the way you look at things. Always look at the bright side.watch your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, start thinking of pleasant things. Always look at what you have done and not at what you haven’t. anxiety, constant worry and nervous tension impacts on your health, clouds your thinking and has negative influences in your life. Learn to manage your STRESS and live a long and happy life.

“if you want happiness for some time- inherit a fortune, if you want happiness for a lifetime-help someone.” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Spend some time alone:

Each day  we should try to make some space for spending time alone.

Start listening to yourself and becoming the best friend and supporter you need. No one is going to work on your happiness for you, so find the power and motivation stored up inside you, and use it to direct yourself into the path of true happiness and satisfaction.

We can never really be happy if ew don’t know where we are going and what we want out of life. Looking at what we want helps us to avoid aimlessly walking through life with no goals. Goals are much easier to attain if we know what they are.

“ if you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts,liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Complete your daily tasks:

Don’t procrastinate, don’t delay, don’t put off what needs to done. The old proverbs are very wise.”a stitch in time saves nine” and “ don’t put off till tomorrow what can be done today.” Life, provides challenges to you and when you meet them, life opens from moving forward. Your inner voice will constantly remind you what needs to be completed. Heed his suggestion and you will be surprised at the rewards.

It will help balance your life,prevent incomplete emotions from spilling over into the subconscious mind and give you tremendous insight.

“ the amount of happiness that you have depends on the amount of freedom you have in your heart.” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Value relationships:

Medical studies have long stated that happily married people live longer and are content with their lives than their single counterparts. Evidence also points to the fact that individuals who enjoy good relationship with their family members ans have good friends and companions will live longer. Poor relationships make for stressful lives and can actually create health problems. Nurturing our relationships is one big way to improve the quality of our lives.

“ success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing,you will be successful.” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Relax and stay calm:

this principle is not to be brushed over. It is the key to developing the right approach towards life  and all the twists and turns that inevitably come your way. If you can stay relaxed you will have a chance to break the reactive pattern of automatic response to conditions,thus meeting more of the moment with more of your being. It all begins will having this ease of being. To relax means to not be easily swayed by the pull of dualities. Neither buying excessively into the promises of gain nor fearing excessively the consequences of loss.

“good life is not so much in having as sharing. We make a living by what we get,but we make a life by what we give” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Be grateful and affectionate:

Forgive, bekind,be thoughtful, be nice , be good, be sensitive, be loving, be compassionate. The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness, to your opponent, tolerance, to a friend. Your heart; to your child,a good example; to a father,deference; to a mother,conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, RESPECT; to all men,charity.

Each day do at least one act to make others happy. There can be a kind word, helping your colleagues, stopping your car at the cross road to let people cross, giving a small present to someone you love. The possibilities are infinite. Do it without focusing on the reward. When you make someone happy, you become happy, and then people try to make you happy.

“ let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY

Show courage and confidence:

Every day you should meet the challenges with lot of courage and confidence within you, specially while doing something which is outside your comfort zone. It is easy to live in cocoon, with a do not disturb sign on the door, but the chances are you are not growing and are instead falling into a pattern of reactive living. So have courage and take on the challenge off doing those things which you know deep inside you need to do, but have been able to cleverly avoid. It does not have to be running the marathon, it could be as simple as making a difficult phone call, to turning off the TV, to volunteering to change the stinky diaper. Perhaps the challenge could be as easy as going to sleep on time and waking up early instead.

“there are two great days in a persons life- the day we are born and the day we discover why.” -ROCKY CHOUDHARY.

How to Have a Healthy Relationship=[Things That You Must Do Together]

Things That You Must Do Together:
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Revive date-night. Going on dates, even if you've been in a relationship for years, is still important. In fact, it's especially important for couples who have been together long enough to grow comfortable. Try to go on a date at least once every month. Some couples make it a priority to go on one date every week.

• If you're having trouble imagining date ideas, try recreating a date you had with your partner early on in your courtship. Do exactly the same thing(s), or put a spin on the date by reinventing it in a significant way.
• Do something new and exciting. Doing something that gets your blood flowing and your heart rate up enhances feelings of togetherness between partners. If you're feeling brave, go on dates that makes you feel like a kid all over again: going to a comedy club, taking a cooking class, or test-driving a new car, to name only a few.

Practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is a decision of letting go of the past and focusing on the present. It's about taking control of your current situation, as you must offer it to your partner as much as you demand it from them.

• Remember who forgiveness really benefits. Forgiving your partner absolves him or her, but it also frees you from carrying around anger and resentment. Don't view it as an entirely altruistic act — it's something you're doing for both of you.

Laugh together. Laugh at one another with the security of love. Laughter helps the world go 'round, and it may with your relationship, too. Laughter helps your body burn calories, increase blood flow, strengthen the immune system, and lowers blood sugar levels. Laughter can be comforting, infectious, or an aphrodisiac, and many things in between. Don't forget to laugh.

Support each other. Being supportive means making your partner's happiness and well-being a priority, in ways big and small. Keep in mind that part of why you're together in the first place is that you're each other's biggest fans, so make sure you act like it. Try demonstrating your support in these ways:

• Be a good listener. If your partner needs you to lend an ear, do it willingly. You don't always need to come up with a solution, just support.
• Offer encouragement. If your partner is trying to make a positive change, start a new hobby, or undertake a difficult challenge, be his or her biggest cheerleader.
• Provide a safe place. Allow your partner to be vulnerable in front of you without fear of judgment.
  
  
  

Devote time to each other. Make spending time with your partner a priority, even if it's a little inconvenient at first. Relationships need shared experiences to grow, and you're demonstrating that nurturing yours is important to you.

• Take up a hobby. Learning something new together can help you grow closer, as well as discovering a leisure activity you both enjoy. Try sports like tennis or basketball, learning a new language, cooking, crafting, or whatever else you've been wanting to try.
• Find small ways to serve each other. Doing small acts of service for your partner shows that you're aware of what he or she needs, and you're willing to help out. It doesn't have to be an extravagant gesture: make dinner, take care of a small errand, or offer a foot rub at the end of the day. Don't make it a big deal, and don't automatically expect payback.

Develop better communication. Most people aren't born great communicators — it's something nearly everyone has to work at. The way you talk to your partner might seem small, but you do it several times a day and it does have an effect. Consider these fixes:

• Don't use directive language. Try to keep phrases like "you should" or "you can't" out of your relationship. You and your partner are equals, and neither one of you should have the authority to direct the other.
• Relay your expectations. If you expect your partner to do something, say it. Don't expect that he or she should read your mind, and don't rely on hints. Being clear about what you want gives your partner a fair shot at succeeding. (And keep the above point in mind: instead of "You should take the garbage out every day," say "I'd really like it if you took the garbage out every day.")
• Say "please" and "thank you." You should be able to let loose around your partner, so there's no need to worry about having impeccable manners all the time. The exception to this is asking nicely and expressing gratitude when your partner does something — don't just assume he or she knows how you meant it.
• Fight fair. Don't just let all these good communication skills go out the window during an argument. Try to get your point across in a loving, respectful way that doesn't seek to hurt your partner. If he or she insists on yelling or throwing insults, quietly request a calmer attitude.
   

Tips

Never cheat, if you are in a long term relationship with someone you love, it is never worth it and these things will always resurface.

Trust is very important; if you don't trust somebody there's no point of being with them.

Never be anything other than yourself around them. If you don't show them all of you, they can't love all of you.

Take care of yourself. Treating yourself with respect and love is as important as respecting and loving your partner.

All good relationships are based upon mutual respect. If you do not feel respect for your partner, or believe your partner is losing respect for you, then consider ways of rebuilding it immediately. Respect is the key. If you have true respect for one another, then nothing can go wrong. You have to learn respect, sometimes it can take a while to achieve this, but if they love you it will come.

Don't drag up the past, especially when it is something that has been resolved. It should stay buried and should not have to surface again.

Comfort each other when needed.

Allow your partner to WANT to love you. Don't pressure them into buying this and that, kissing you at this time etc Your partner has to want to do these things. It makes things more real and less of you feeling like you're forcing them to love you.

Don't assume the worst or doubt him/her. It's all about trust.

Ask questions, clarify, and don't assume. Do not talk if your mind is not clear or is full of anger. When you feel hurt, do not say "it's your fault / you never loved me" or "let's break up" or "when do you want to break up?". You might well regret it one day. Tell him or her you feel hurt, and ask for clarification first, if you don't work together and just blame, it can only do harm. Never just withdraw this always causes more harm than good.

statutory warning by Rocky Choudhary(RC):

 
If your partner is scaring you, trying to control you, or deliberately hurting you (physically or emotionally), seek help immediately. Abusive behavior is not your fault. In a healthy relationship, partners need to work together to make each other happy; you should never have to work just to keep your partner from making you miserable.